Finding out about your Enneagram type shouldn’t be the end of your journey of discovering your personality. The Enneagram is an amazing tool to help you on your journey to become more self-aware and self-accepting.
These five ideas are only a first step to get you started. Get your premium profile to find out much more about how you can use the Enneagram to become your healthiest self!
1. Be aware of your impact
It might be a surprise to you, but your presence is usually twice as large as you think it is. What feels like passion to you often feels like intimidation to others. And no, that doesn’t make them weak. Learn to accept that you have a unique personality and offer an apology when others report that they are overwhelmed by it.
2. Vulnerability doesn’t make you weak
Whatever it is that convinced you to equate weakness and vulnerability, make an effort to find out what that is. Befriend your inner child. If this sounds like a waste of time to you, you know you’re on the right path. Take it as the ultimate challenge: Making yourself vulnerable takes real courage. On the other side of it you will find real intimacy.
3. Rediscover the color gray
Not everything in this world is black or white, win or lose, strong or weak. The middle ground is an actual thing, and compromise is not the equivalent to defeat.
4. Double-check your irritation
When you feel your blood starting to boil, stop and ask yourself what’s truly firing up those engines. Are you trying to hide or deny a vulnerable feeling? Check if you’re really angry at someone else or if your aggression is just a way for you to hide that feeling.
5. Seek out moderation
You have a lust for life that can take you overboard. Allow a friend or your partner to remind you when you ignore your own or other people’s boundaries again. “Everything in moderation“ might sound like a cliché to you, but when you think of all the Eights who have died of heart attacks, you realize that it can be a literal life saver for you.