Finding out about your Enneagram type shouldn’t be the end of your journey of discovering your personality. The Enneagram is an amazing tool to help you on your journey to become more self-aware and self-accepting.
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1. Find your voice
Humility is not the same as making yourself small. Even if it sounds cliché when you put it in a few words like this: You matter! The world wants you to make yourself heard. Practice taking a moment to think about and express your own opinions before you automatically agree with those around you.
2. Practice saying No
While disappointing others never feels good, Type Nines too often neglect their own wishes in order to keep everyone happy. But you owe it to yourself to value your own time and energy as much as anyone else’s. If “No“ feels too terrifying, start with “Let me think about it and get back to you tomorrow“.
3. Think differently about conflict
What looks like a relationship-threatening confrontation to you is often just a run-of-the-mill disagreement to the other person. Take a moment before you zone out, to remind yourself that the stakes are almost always lower than you think. And more importantly: they are worth standing up for yourself.
4. Try staying with something difficult
True peace is not the same as avoiding unpleasantness. The next time you face something that requires you to step out of your comfort zone or endure a little bit of discomfort, know that you have the strength to make it to the other side and focus on how you will feel afterwards instead of how you feel now.
5. Make making decisions easier
The next time you are faced with a decision you feel you are unable to make, don’t turn to other people to tell you what you should do, but go take some time for yourself to find out what it is that you actually want to do – and then do it!