Finding out about your Enneagram type shouldn’t be the end of your journey of discovering your personality. The Enneagram is an amazing tool to help you on your journey to become more self-aware and self-accepting.
These five ideas are only a first step to get you started. Get your premium profile to find out much more about how you can use the Enneagram to become your healthiest self!
1. Be Direct
You are a master of figuring out what others need from you before they even open their mouth. Most other people however don’t possess that special skill. But they are happy to help you if you tell them clearly what you need. Try telling them directly instead of hinting at it, hoping that they get it (and being frustrated when they don’t).
2. Learn To Say No
Not everything people ask you to do is actually yours to do. Yes, it feels good to see the smile on their face after you help them. But it’s not worth the exhaustion and neglecting your own needs. Defending your boundaries is a job only you can do.
3. Beware Of Flattery
It’s okay that not everybody likes you. Catch yourself when you’re pushing too hard to present a likeable image or use flattery to win people’s approval. There are plenty of people out there who will like you just as you are.
4. Pay Attention To Yourself
Ask yourself at least once a day: What are my emotional needs right now? Are they being met? Am I expecting others to meet them for me, or do I need to attend to them myself? You are a master of compassion. Don’t be afraid to use it on yourself.
5. Check Your Pride
Helping others is beautiful in and of itself. Remember that it loses its purpose when it’s only done to reinforce your importance in other people’s lives. Be careful to not misuse their gratitude to compensate for a deeper fear of being unlovable.