Time to explore what makes you you! Let's dive into type One profile to understand how your deep emotions and unconscious behavior shape your personality and how that helps you, but how it can also limit you.
Ones are idealists. They constantly want to improve themselves and the world around them, because they see the potential of everything to become just a little bit better. It’s why this type is often called the Teacher or Reformer. They have clear ideas about what’s right and wrong and are willing to stand up for it.
For Ones, the world often feels like a giant dishwasher that someone didn’t learn how to fill properly. The spoons are spooning, the dishes are derailed, and there’s never enough space between the bowls. While others might be able to just shrug their shoulders and keep on doing their thing, Ones can’t look away. So they try their best to make a difference, first and foremost in their own life. They can be harsh critics, but only because they are even more critical with themselves. They have high standards for their work and relationships, which means they are very disciplined and willing to sacrifice for what they believe is good and right.
To other people, this often looks like perfectionism. And indeed, one of the biggest struggles for Ones is to know when to stop improving. It’s easier for them to see what’s still missing than to appreciate what’s already there. Their inner voice relentlessly reminds them of everything they do wrong, and they find it really hard to turn that off and relax. Ones need the affirmation that good is often better than perfect, less is usually more, and taking things easy is not a sign of laziness but of self-care.
It’s easy to make fun of someone who tries to achieve flawlessness, but the world would be a poorer place without people like you. To you, there’s a beauty to the immaculately designed products of Steve Jobs or the mathematical precision of Maxwell’s equations. Whatever you set out to do, you will have read the manual, done your homework and know what you’re talking about.
Since anything less than perfect is the equivalent of failure to you, there isn’t much room for ambiguity. There is either truth or lie. Right or wrong. Good or bad. Anyone who tries to convince you of the opposite is most likely not too concerned with truth and justice themselves. Your moral compass doesn’t stray, and you won’t accept it if someone tries to maneuver themselves around integrity and honesty either.
After all, they are there for a reason, and if everyone started skirting the rules, society would quickly break down. So you make sure you turn on the blinker every time you take a turn, and you don’t mind reminding others that they forgot to turn on theirs. To you, you’re helping them.
Having a mess in whatever area of your life translates into failure for you. Which is why you probably like to clean your room, and you like it even more if you can listen to an educational podcast while you’re doing it. But even if you hate cleaning, you will do it anyway because it simply needs to be done. You like routines, you prefer things to be diligently planned rather than spontaneous, and when you organize something, you are thorough.
Everyone has an inner critic, but yours might just be a little louder and unforgiving, and it’s telling you that there’s always something to fix, to improve and to adjust. So to you, laying back feels the same as allowing the world to go to pieces. You cannot not see what’s broken, literal and metaphorical. If it were up to you, you could spend all life trying to perfect everything. Deep down, you know of course that that’s unachievable. But even when „resting“, you often still try to accomplish something, even if it’s just planning dinner in your head.
By now, you might start feeling a bit uncomfortable. So it's time for some reflection.
First of all, it's totally normal if not everything on this list applies to you, or if it applies only to certain areas of your life. Again, Enneagram types are about desires and hurts that shape the way we look at the world. This leads to patterns that are similar for many people, but obviously, they're not the same for everyone. Your personality has been shaped by so many factors that it is completely unique.
So the goal here is not to play psych-tricks on you, or to tell you things you already know about yourself.
Instead, try to see these core traits more like a helping hand. They can make you more aware of habits and patterns in your life you might be doing unconsciously and unreflectingly.
Here's what you can reflect on with this exercise: